Connecting with my birth family turned out to be a time of letting my mother go. She would be 90 years old on June 2. She wasn't prepared to stay here on this earth until that date. Within three days of my arrival she was moved to palliative care where she died three days later. As I had attempted to prepare myself over the last few years for when I would get that call I always assumed I would be on a flight after I got word that she had died. She had other plans for me. The family believes she waited until she knew I was there to go. I feel privileged to have been there.
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| Her father called her his Peachy Girl. With six brothers she surely was! |
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| I had forgotten that there were "bride elects"! |
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| She worked in a local bank after business college. My father fell in love with this woman. |
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| Her wedding day. Little did she know she would be the mother of seven children within eleven years! |
Legacy of Love
A wife, a mother, a grandma too
This is the legacy we have from you
You taught us love and how to fight,
You gave us strength, you gave us might.
A stronger person would be hard to find,
and in your heart, you were always kind.
You fought for us all in one way or another,
Not just as wife, not just as mother.
For all of us you gave your best,
Now the time has come for you to rest
So go in peace, you've earned your sleep.
Your love in our hearts, we'll eternally keep.
(Two of her granddaughters shared this at her funeral)
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| Mom in the dark dress on the right. My father behind her and all the children are theirs except the little boy on the right. What a day that was, getting seven of us dolled up for the photo. My brother took off and played outdoors dirtying his freshly polished shoes. There wasn't time to fix them before the photo! |
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| These are her adult children now. One daughter couldn't be there that day but she was with us in spirit. |
This was written and read by Jane who allowed us to laugh and cry at the same time.
Love of our Mother – Helen Sawyer
First, we would like to thank each and
everyone for coming and celebrating our Mother’s life with us today.
Mom was a very strong woman with a soft heart
when it came to her family. She loved her family unconditionally; starting with
her brothers and her wonderful sister-in-laws. We know this because she would
call us every year to make sure we knew when and where the family picnic was
being held!
We knew she loved us by how hard she worked
to provide for us when we were growing up. She also taught us to grow, learn
and love our own families.
I must tell you she had one little flaw,
which she passed onto all her children; if you told her a secret about your
family everyone would know by Sunday night.
Carol Ann, she leaned on you and you were
there for her; we cannot thank you enough for taking on that responsibility.
Mary, she loved your independence and she
lived vicariously through you.
Jane, she gave you security in tough times.
Barb, she loved your talents and your counsel.
Georgina, she worried about you always and
wanted you to get healthy.
Richard, she gave you six "beautiful sisters" and definitely the O’Brien sense of humour.
Nancy was her baby and her best friend.
Susan, her seventh daughter she loved you
like her own.
She also cherished all her son-in-laws
Her
Grandchildren and Great Grandchildren were the joy of her life. The greatest
thing she gave us was each other.
It was
very a difficult decision when we had to move Mom to Cambridge 5 years ago;
taking her from her friends, family and activities but it was our turn to watch
over her.
MOM
Your Life
was a Blessing
Your
Memory a Treasure
You are
Loved beyond Words
And
Missed beyond Measure
